Being the Good Guy (Girl) is not always easy…

Have you ever realized that? Sure in the end good always wins but man sometimes don’t you just want to stoop to their level. I have a had a few rough months lately in which I have seen who are the people who should be in my life and who should not.

I will admit yes a few months ago I was a not nice person, I was hurt and angry because of a situation that hurt me very badly. I did what most people do and I stooped to the level of who I was upset with, I talked about them to people. A few weeks after I did that I realized that made me absolutely no better than them and in fact my mood was worse than ever. So I decided it wasn’t worth it to me, I decided it was best for me to just pray for them and for me. I decided anytime a thought about how angry I was at them I would not get angry but say a prayer instead. It has been working wonderfully, I have not said a bad thing about them or anyone for that matter, I have been peacefully blogging away.

Of course when you are trying to live right and do the right things something always happens that tries to throw you off course right. Well that would be yesterday, I got an email from a friend of mine (nope no names sorry) saying that they were told I was talking about them. WAIT stop the press……….WHAT!!!!!!!!!!! Well that is just crap because I haven’t even talked about the person that hurt me so why in the world would I talk about someone I like! My life (online and nononline) has been so peaceful because I had chosen to take the higher road, by not talking about anyone. Oh I was boiling so I tweeted LOL.

Then I realized (when I finally calmed down and anaylized the situation) that because I am trying to live right, get my life in order and get back on track with God attacks are going to happen. It’s a way of trying to get me to give up and give in really and I will not do it.

I will continue to be the better person and will continue to get my life in order. I will continue to restore my relationship with God and let him be in control of my life. I will rest in the fact that the truth will always come out, it always does. I pity the person that is always trying to kick others when they are down because they are unhappy with themselves it truly is a miserable place to be (I have been there before) and in the end they only end up hurting themselves worse than those they are trying to hurt. I will just keep doing what I am doing and not let the lies people tell get to me I in fact will just pray more for them.

I do have a few requests though, if you are going to talk about someone always know it will be found out what you are saying and you will be the one that has to answer to the people you have hurt or tried to hurt. Ask yourself “is this something I would want to happen to me” if you can answer no then why in the world would you do it to someone else. Instead of gossiping why not be the one who stops it, if someone comes to you and says “Oh I have something to tell you about so and so” tell them you will not participate in gossip and maybe just maybe you will be the one to stop that one person who is trying to hurt another.

What good does it do you really to try to hurt someone else? To try to mess up friendships between people? To talk about people? Does it really help you out in any way that is beneficial?

Being the bigger person and the good guy/girl isn’t always easy but it is always best. It is always what wins out in the end. Being a real friend, not just coming around when there may be drama going on to find out what it is. Being a real friend all the time, not just when it is beneficial for you. Being honest and caring not just pretending to care so you can find out what may or may not be going on with people. Those are the things that win out in the end, being honest, being real, and TRULY Caring. If you are that way then you will always come out on top! Be positive, Be real and most importantly Be the better person, never give anyone reason to talk and then if they lie it will only hurt them in the end.

Okay that is my deep thoughts post for today. What is your advice to people on how they should treat others or things they should not do?


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Hi! I'm Toni. I am a happily married, christian, momma of 3 living on Florida's sunny Gulf Coast. I am a lifestyle blogger and Seint Arist. I started blogging when my last child was born as a way to share my love of all things travel, cooking, beauty, recipes, and more. Now pull up a chair, grab a glass of sweet tea and let's get to know each other. I truly hope you enjoy getting A Daily Dose of Toni!


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    Stacy's Random Thoughts

    Very well put, Toni! I have been in the exact same situation as you…it’s not fun! I always try to follow the “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” and try to adopt a ‘water off a duck’s back’ mentality, but sometimes it’s hard. You’re smart to ‘take the high road’, because I have witnessed that what goes ’round does indeed come ’’s only a matter of time! 😉

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    Good post. I think I have come to realize that I have to treat others as I wish to be treated. But there comes a time when you realize that some people just cannot, or will not reciprocate. Some people are just that way, you cannot change them, just hope that they figure things out before its too late and they end up without true friends.
    We can only make sure we behave like a person we would want as a friend. I consider you a wonderful friend Toni.
    Just hang in there.

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    Good post Toni! I realized when it comes to how you treat others etc, that you just do what is right. Sometimes it goes against our natural instinct, we want to protect ourselves, fight…but I learned that it won’t give you the peace you want. Ya know?!?! But the biggest thing, when I come across the people who aren’t always the nicest, ALWAYS have a story, so it’s sometimes better to be a little sympathetic too! But great post Toni what a way to make me think! LOL Off to go do quotes — I love Sunday’s now!

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    We live in a small town so I try to avoid getting into this type of situation. I try very hard to avoid saying anything about someone that I wouldn’t say to them directly. I am trying to teach my tween the same thing. She is at the age when girls start talking about each other and I remind her that whatever she says may get back to the person so she should never say anything negative about other people.

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    Great post. I agree, it isn’t always easy to be the bigger person, but it is always better. The Golden Rule is the only way to go, but it is hard sometimes. I also always try to remember cute little Thumper saying, “If you can’t say something nice . . . don’t say nothin’ at all.”

    For me, I learned real quick about gossip’s pros and cons managing a small business. Friendships form naturally for me, even if I am their manager, and one slip up and it can ruin everything.

    Eventually the girls got too comfortable gossiping with me and I lost the ability to lead them correctly. I had to crack down, and at that point they were not up for working without gossiping the whole time. I had to get an entirely new staff. It was awful and I learned my lesson big time.

    I pretty much stopped that behavior then and there. Now-a-days I am usually the one saying, “Ok, y’all. Let’s not bad talk people. Let’s just have fun. They aren’t at home bad talking us.” That sort of thing.

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    Great post. I would like to think that I’m not a gossiper. I do like to know what’s going on, that’s why I look at others blogs. But though I don’t pass on gossip I’m probably not as good at stopping it. I’m gonna have to try it the next time ande see how it works.

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