You know the one, where we talk to our daughters about the changes that come as they get older. As a parent it’s hard to approach the subject, because we want our kids to stay little forever. So when they get older, I admit, it kind of weirds me out having to talk to them about growing up and all that it encompasses. One of the things I’ll be doing within the next couple of years, with my daughter, is talking about the changes that a little girl goes through in the process of becoming a woman and just thinking about gets my nerves to shaking.
When it’s time for us to sit down, at the time when she is old enough to understand, I want her to be comfortable to listen to and talk with me about it. She is 7 so it’s something I won’t have to deal with for a few years (hopefully, if she is a late bloomer like me) but I want to make sure she is prepared when the time comes.
As a mom it’s my responsibility to make sure she is well informed, so she knows what to expect. Luckily (for her, not so much for me) she tends to always need something every time I am in the restroom, so she has been exposed to what menstruation is and knows that when she gets older it’s something she will experience as well. I’ve kept it simple for her because she is still young enough to not need a lot of detail. A period is something that is both exciting and scary for a young girl, so I don’t want her on information overload right now. However I do want to make sure she understands at some point she will have “that time” just like mommy does.
I have to not only prepare her, but myself as well. It’s important that I go into the talks with confidence because if I am hesitant to talk about something like this with her it may be harder for her to understand it’s something natural and nothing to be scared of. A few tips I am keeping on hand for the next few years as the talks become more in depth:
- I want to approach the subject without intimidating her with too much information.
- I don’t want to overwhelm her but be able to keep an open dialogue.
- I want to make sure the topics I cover, throughout the evolutions of the conversation, are appropriate for her current age.
- I want to make sure she feels as comfortable as I did talking to my mom about it.
- I will make sure I do whatever I need to, to make sure she is able to deal with the life changes that come her way.
Being a parent entails so much we don’t think about when they are bitty babies, but things we eventually have to deal with. I love that Kotex has a website that I as a parent can use during the talks with my daughter. They also have great information for tweens/teens who may want to learn a little more. With so many great resources I should be okay and give my daughter the information she needs to get her through the changes she will go through. Now if only there were a website to cook for me my world would be perfect.
How did you or how will you approach the talk with your daughter?
I wrote this review while participating in a Brand Ambassador Campaign by Mom Central Consulting on behalf of U by Kotex Tween and received products to facilitate my post and a promotional item to thank me for taking the time to participate.
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This is when I am absolutely happy that I have only boys.
I’m getting ready to have “The Talk” with my 8 yr old and although I’m a bit nervous, I am happy to be able to have an open relationship with my daughter too!
I got “the talk” along with the sex talk all-in-one. It was too much to process! I’m going to break it up for Sweet T when the time comes.
It’s a lot all at once – I agree it’s good to break it up!
Talk early! My mom didn’t and the first 6 months I menstruated I hid it from her and I had no idea what was wrong with me. Talk often!
I have two girls! I will have to chat with you in a few years lol!
My daughter came to me and asked me about it, great to be ahead of them!
I’m so not ready for this.
Oh my gosh, glad I had a son.
I have two teenagers that have already started their period. My youngest daughter just turned 8 yesterday and I have been thinking I should talk to her soon about the women stuff.
Oh, yes. I remember the talk. No girls for me so far, but we have had the boy talk with my oldest who is 11 in august.
I have a few more years before having to worry about that.
yep. I’m starting this talk. I’ve tried a couple times but not too sure if I’ve gotten through to her
We’ve already had both talks with our older kids. You’ll do fine!
I don’t have daughters, but these sound like good tips. My mom was NOT like this 🙂
I have to admit that I’m glad I have a boy. But I am getting ready to have the “sex” talk with him (age appropriately, of course).
I’ve had this talk with my daughter and i think we need to have more of them. Seems she still gets exploratory
I don’t look forward to that day, lol.