Toni’s Tidbits: R-E-S-P-E-C-T, is it really that hard to give?


So what are your thoughts? Can people be mature enough and agree to disagree or does it always have to return to bashing and sides? I have noticed the lack of attacks lately in the blog world and have loved the civility we have all had even if we don’t all necessarily agree or some may not like each other but this whole situation has seemed to push us back a step and I For one am not okay with that.

So in my opinion it’s all about RESPECT, if you wanted to be respected you have to respect others.

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Hi! I'm Toni. I am a happily married, christian, momma of 3 living on Florida's sunny Gulf Coast. I am a lifestyle blogger and Seint Arist. I started blogging when my last child was born as a way to share my love of all things travel, cooking, beauty, recipes, and more. Now pull up a chair, grab a glass of sweet tea and let's get to know each other. I truly hope you enjoy getting A Daily Dose of Toni!


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    What happened to common decency and polite-ness? ugh I agree with you – the nastiness makes us all look bad. Have your opinion but let’s keep it civil and not make it personal.
    .-= Fiona´s last blog ..Much Anticipated Federal Trade Commission Guidelines Finally Released =-.

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    You’re completely right Toni. There IS a way to disagree respectfully with other people. I read a LOT of those Tweets from Nestle Family and was turned off by those who were “trying” to stand up for their cause, but being so hateful to others who didn’t agree.

    Let’s respect each other…….. There’s no reason not to. 🙂
    .-= Sara@My Sippy Cup Runneth Over´s last blog ..Music Monday Lead Me to the Cross =-.

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      Absolutely you can always have debates and disagree on subjects but when you attack others for having different views that’s when it’s not okay.

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    Good job, Toni. I think what you said is right—the conversation was IMMEDIATELY about the bloggers and the event and NOT about the issue (which they brought up—we didn’t & neither did Nestle). If you’re going to be helpful then try RESPECTING someone instead of bashing them.

    Anywhoo. You know how I feel…
    .-= oh amanda´s last blog ..Top Ten {Tuesday}: Reasons I’m Still Tired =-.

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      Thanks Amanda, you are right it started out immediately attacking and that was what really upset me. I can understand people having their opinion of Nestle and don’t begrudge them that opinion but I don’t respect someone or their cause when they bash people for working with a company (that we liked) just because they don’t like them and/or have problems with them

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    Hi Toni,

    I read a blog post once on respect that really spoke to me. It is by Dale McGowan at The Meming of Life. In his post on engaged coexistence, he explains that people are inherently deserving of respect, but ideas have to earn respect. Here is his more detailed post on it:

    I find that a lot of people have trouble separating the two. That includes people who are attacking the ideas of others and people whose ideas are being attacked. Often people perceive an attack on their ideas or their actions as an attack on their person. Often people who are attacking someone’s ideas or actions take it too far and attack that person.

    I wrote about this as it relates to parenting styles here:

    But I think the sentiment applies equally to this Nestle situation.

    Respectfully 🙂

    .-= Annie @ PhD in Parenting´s last blog ..Nada como mamá, nada como mamar (Nothing like mom, nothing like breastfeeding) =-.

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      I just think everyone can have a level of respect even if opinions are differing . I think to start bashing and disrespecting people just because they like a company that another doesn’t is trivializing the cause the people are wanting to bring attention too. Not to mention hurting people. I am okay with people that don’t like me because I dont’ agree with their assessment of a company or because we dont’ believe the same in politics but they have to be respectful toward me or to me it’s saying they dont’ really care they just really want to stir up controversy even in misdirected.

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        I think you’ve missed the point of the concern being expressed. It’s not about liking or not liking Nestle, for me. There are lots of their products that I have used and liked in the past.
        It’s about bloggers taking responsibility for the alliances they chose to make – both making sure that they know who the alliance is with and that they’re honest about it.
        That’s not a decision that others should make for you – but readers have a right to know that you have made it and judge your content accordingly.
        Ultimately, you can’t have it both ways – have a readership who trusts and respects your opinion and be absolved of any responsibility to defend that opinion.
        .-= Michelle @´s last blog ..Guess who is in the Canadian Family Toy Guide? =-.

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          I have answers that satisfy me that Nestle is not what people are making them out to be (that’s my right as it is others to say they haven’t changed from 30 years ago).

          But for people to be very disrespectful to me b/c I don’t agree with what they are saying is not okay. It’s no different than those who gave all of us breastfeeders a hard time for breastfeeding in public. We demanded equality and respect and so should be the same in this situation.

          People can not like me for working with this one company but to bash me and say I support what they are accusing Nestle of is ridiculous anyone in their right mind would know if I or any other attendee agreed with the research or thought these things were true or Nestle did not answer in a way that we felt gave us answers needed to prove otherwise we would not be working with them we would never support something like that.

          People seem to want to hide behind a computer and hurt others plain and simple for no reason other than they don’t like the fact that we don’t take what they are saying at face value but instead will decide for ourselves. Or that’s the way it is coming across to me.

          What other reason would they have to be as disrespectful and vice versa if anyone has been rude to the ones who don’t like Nestle or any other company (no matter which side you are on) ? Absolutely none.

          And responsibility of my opinion?? Because I choose to believe what Nestle told me and that I don’t think all the accusations are near accurate? I like Nestle, that’s my opinion, but just because I like them does absolutely not make me responsible for actions people are accusing them of, am I correct?

          The anger doesn’t need to be directed at people who are just working with a company because they happen to like that company. Simply be civil is all it boils down to, agree to disagree but don’t bash for differences.

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        I agree. Did you get something different from my comment or from my actions?
        .-= Annie @ PhD in Parenting´s last blog ..Nada como mamá, nada como mamar (Nothing like mom, nothing like breastfeeding) =-.

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          Nope – that was a reply to Toni, not yours :).
          .-= Michelle @´s last blog ..Guess who is in the Canadian Family Toy Guide? =-.

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          I was not insinuating you particularly at all 🙂 I do hope you realize that I am talking about the ones who were being extremely rude to myself and the other attendees.

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            That’s what I thought (from your video), but then when you replied that way to my comment I thought maybe you were saying something different. Thanks for clarifying.
            .-= Annie @ PhD in Parenting´s last blog ..Nada como mamá, nada como mamar (Nothing like mom, nothing like breastfeeding) =-.

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    Great vlog! It’s all about respect at the end of the day. It will get you lots more in the end! So glad to have met ya!
    .-= Andrea @ Mommy´s last blog ..FREE Kraftmaid Kitchen Idea Book =-.

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    I agree, Toni – respect is very important, and agreeing to disagree is so much better than bashing. 🙂

    And I LOVE Frankenberry and BooBerry – I picked those up last week when I was grocery shopping at Wal*Mart and Princess Nagger is all about loving them, too! 🙂
    .-= Stacy (the Random Cool Chick)´s last blog ..Wordless/Wordful Wednesday – Fall Decor Part One =-.

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    There are nasty people everywhere…people who do not know how to respect others.

    I don’t think it will ever change. That is why we have wars. There is no compromise. No respect.

    I don’t really know about all the blogging stuff you were talking about, but I think that is good for my sake 🙂
    .-= The Redhead Riter´s last blog ..Stabbed Over A Doughnut =-.

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    I agree — people seem to be growing up and finally realizing that attacks are NOT NECESSARY. It’s nice to see.