I was thinking about the tears I have cried when being attacked, when someone is maliciously trying to hurt me for no reason other than jealousy, tears that fall when I get my feelings hurt. Yes I am a cryer, but it dawned on me that is not a bad thing…at least not with me. In fact the more those people and situations make me cry the better I become.
You are the reason:
I better myself.
I work harder to accomplish my goals.
I make new friends.
I am stronger.
I am a better person.
I value friendships with people who are kind, real and honest.
I can face each day with a smile.
I have more opportunities, without the tears to make me want to accomplish more I would not have opportunities.
I am an honest person.
You may win for a moment when I break down, but I, in turn, use that pain to grow, to learn, to go after opportunities, to never give up. So for that I thank you, because in the end…
I WIN!
So to all my readers, we all deal with attacks, we all deal with people who are out to hurt us for whatever reason. We all cry, instead of trying to get back at them (which would make us no better in reality) use the hurt to better who you are, to make more opportunities for yourself, to strengthen yourself. It’s empowering and in the end we win because of it. Cry a tear and then laugh and push on! Let the ones who hurt you the most be the biggest reason for your success because without them you may be happy where you are but because of them you will want to be happier and succeed even more. Hurt can hurt for a moment but the feelings can help to empower you for a lifetime 🙂
Toni Patton
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Amen! I love to cry too. And sometimes at the end of a long day of work and being a single parent, I have to get in the shower and bawl.
(I love water. I tell my kids that water washes the grouchies away.)
So yeah, live and learn. Cry and strengthen. Make lemonade!!!
I love it.
Yes showers are wonderful :). Crying is most definitely a release for me. And I love lemonade 🙂
Girl I thought I was going to have to get ready to beat somebody up. Who would make my Toni cry. I know I don't comment a lot but I'm hear and you seem like such a nice and wonderful person.
I have to admit I'm one of those people that don't like to let others see me cry but I do cry. I love to cry in the shower (I don't know why). It's my favorite place to be alone.
I cry all the time too, Toni. It's a release. Afterwards, you feel better, you have a new perspective, and the desire to shake it off and move forward and show "those people" just how wrong they were. Keep on cryin' girlfriend…there's a bunch of us out there cryin' with you and becoming better women for it!
UGH! GUT CHECK! I am SO not a cryer, because I have always told myself that "if I cry, I am allowing my self to be weak & letting my strength come tumbling down." I admittedly have built a wall around my heart that I have asked the Lord to remove. It's not easy, especially when I'm hurt again after some healing. I want to put the wall back up & this time add rebare & make sure the grout is hardened.
Thank you for sharing Toni!!!
See I used to keep walls up too, and I will find myself putting them up when I get hurt because of my past and it is a daily praying that God gives me strength to let people in thing 🙂
My husband can atest I didn't let him in for a long time and I realized that wasn't healthy so now I just pray that God breaks the walls and makes me better through the trials 🙂
REad Joyce Meyers Never GIve up it's a wonderful book
What a beautiful post! Recently in a sermon, my pastor was telling us that the composition of tears was different between tears of sorrow/pain and happiness- weird huh! I'm ready for a good cry!
I too am a cryer…and I always feel better and more equip to handle the situation afterward. Great post!
You're soooo right crying can be such a release and is not a bad thing.
I too am a highly sensitive person and I cannot bear someone being mad at me… it just kills me. I'm a total people pleaser… but we can't really please everyone.
I'm terribly sorry to hear you've had troubles with people attacking you. I just HATE hearing that stuff… we all need to support each other.
But good for you for turning it around and making you stronger!
I'm so very sorry there are people out there who have been ugly to you. I just don't understand it. It seems like we should have left all that childish nonsense back in middle and high school but instead there are GROWN WOMEN who still act like immature teenagers who like to bully others. It is quite sad when I see my own teenage daughters act much more mature than some of the women out here in bloggy-land. Thankfully, it has been my experience that it is a very, very minute part of the population but I still hate to see them hurt ANYONE. I think you are handling it all with humility and with grace. May you be blessed as you continue to do the right thing and may you continue to grow stronger as you do so.
Have a wonderful day!
Blessings,
Teresa <><
http://toomanyheartbeats.blogspot.com/
I'm so very sorry there are people out there who have been ugly to you. I just don't understand it. It seems like we should have left all that childish nonsense back in middle and high school but instead there are GROWN WOMEN who still act like immature teenagers who like to bully others. It is quite sad when I see my own teenage daughters act much more mature than some of the women out here in bloggy-land. Thankfully, it has been my experience that it is a very, very minute part of the population but I still hate to see them hurt ANYONE. I think you are handling it all with humility and with grace. May you be blessed as you continue to do the right thing and may you continue to grow stronger as you do so.
Have a wonderful day!
Blessings,
Teresa <><
http://toomanyheartbeats.blogspot.com/
WOW What an inspiring post Toni. I think I needed that. Thank you.
WAY TO GO!! I love a good cry! This means that we are in touch with who we are as a person and are not afraid to share our feelings. I think if we don't cry to me that seems like we are too robotic and trying to be something we are not. I think true tears of feeling are immense and so important, especially to show our children. That no matter what its OK to cry and a good thing.
But on the flip side some people use crying like a crutch and as a bait and those people make me angry. Cry for feeling, not to get your way. Love this post Toni!!
Karie
Great post and something we can all relate to.
Uhh thank God I'm not the only one! As I've gotten older I cry a lot more. It is okay to cry. However, a small dosage of Prozac helps me not to cry every day! =) God bless you girl. Stay strong!
The Glamorous WAHM
Toni, I so needed to read this today. These are beautiful words. Maybe because I am such a cryer. I have people in my life right now that have made me cry a lot recently and you have made me realize that I AM a stronger and better person because of them. Thank you so much!
This really touched me and made me stronger. I cried only yesterday, remembering
all the hurt I had to endure throughout primary school and parts of high school; hurt not only from classmates, but my own cousin. However, in the end God turns our heartache into our greatest triumph. God bless. By the way, I love your name 🙂
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